We would love to host your wedding and make it as special as possible for you and your guests.

So, congratulations on your engagement; let us help make your special day memorable!

We are delighted that you are getting married – and that you may be looking at Romsey Abbey as the perfect venue.

We can help with advice on every aspect of your wedding ceremony.  Maybe you would like a wedding blessing in one of the small chapels in the Abbey or combine a more traditional service with a thanksgiving for your children?

Our Director of Music will be happy to help with advice on your choice of music, and you can also choose readings or poems which have a special meaning for you. We also offer practical advice as you organise your wedding day and thoughts on preparing for your married life together.

Don’t forget, too, that the size and architecture of the Abbey provides an inspiring setting and enables you to invite a large number of guests, if you wish. You’ll enjoy a walk down the aisle together that you won’t forget!

Here are the steps to getting you up the aisle:

  1. If you would like to book your wedding at the Abbey, the first step is to make an appointment to meet one of our clergy team. Appointments take place at 5.45pm on a Sunday evening, prior to our Evensong service. Booking is essential via the Parish Office (open Monday to Friday 9am – 4.30pm). At this meeting, the duty clergy member can answer your questions, check availability of the Abbey and complete the initial paperwork. If either or both of you are divorced, please see the additional guidance below.
  2. The Parish Office will follow up on your booking after the weekend and write to you to confirm the date and time.
  3. The Parish Office will liaise with you at the appropriate times ahead of your wedding service to confirm your requirements and to put you in touch with the member of the clergy team taking your service. This will include meeting with the priest taking your wedding to enable you to get to know each other.
  4. Planning your service. Think about music, readings and personalising your service to make it special to you. Our Abbey choirs are available, but of course you may wish to use your own music or musicians too. We are able to livestream the service on the web if you have family and friends unable to attend.
  5. Prepare for married life. We will spend some time with you talking through the meaning of the service and help you to get the best out of married life together.
  6. Come and listen to your Banns. They are usually read at the Abbey on the first three Sundays of the month before your wedding, just before the main 10am service.  It is an important part of the run-up to your wedding day and it is lovely if you are able to come and hear them.
  7. Rehearsals are usually the night before the wedding and provide a chance to run through the ceremony with all the main players!
  8. The Big Day – we will do everything we can to make your ceremony the most memorable and enjoyable part of your day as you begin a new chapter together!

You will find more details of service planning, music and ideas for your wedding on the Church of England website set up especially for couples like you – please visit www.yourchurchwedding.org.

The Church of England rules that govern where you can get married have got a great deal easier, too. You may marry at the Abbey if you can prove that you meet just one of the following criteria:

      • one of you was baptised or prepared for confirmation in the parish of Romsey;
      • one of you has at any time lived in the parish for six months or more;
      • one of you has at any time regularly attended public worship in the parish for six months or more;
      • one of your parents has lived in the parish for six months or more in your lifetime;
      • one of your parents has regularly attended public worship here for six months or more in your lifetime;
      • either your parents or grandparents were married in the parish.

If either or both of you are divorced, with your former spouse still living, before you begin to plan your wedding, please click on this link for guidance prepared by the Church of England.

To contact the Parish Office – tel: 01794 513125 | email: parishoffice@romseyabbey.org.uk